Too many people get lost in the shallow aspects of someone, and they end up regretting it in the end. They are stuck with someone who may look pretty on the outside, but ends up being something of a disappointment in the end.
So if you are annoyed by men who are only looking for what is on the surface, don't worry. Men who care about more than looks are out there.
There are a lot of shallow guys out there who are only interested in a woman’s looks, in a certain body type or set of features. But that’s not who I’m talking about.
You wouldn’t want to date those guys anyway, let alone settle down with them.
No, I’m talking about mature men, who have done enough growing up to realize that life isn’t all about appearances. Men who understand that a woman can’t be reduced to just her anatomy – it’s the depth and richness of her personality that make her who she is.
No, I’m talking about mature men, who have done enough growing up to realize that life isn’t all about appearances. Men who understand that a woman can’t be reduced to just her anatomy – it’s the depth and richness of her personality that make her who she is.
After all, isn’t that the kind of man you want to be with? To build a life, a home and family with?
A grown man looks beneath the surface, seeking out those soulful qualities that give a woman that hard-to-define, but all important “it factor.”
Qualities that are way more important than looks when it comes to being a good partner and lover.
When a man has left the age of boyhood and is looking for a woman he can have a long-term relationship with and a relationship that has a future, there are certain qualities he secretly desires in that woman.
So, when it comes to finding someone attractive, it doesn't always come down to the physical characteristics. In fact, when you are seeking out a partner, you really ought to focus on the deeper details.
He might not say it, but these are some of the non-physical qualities a man truly desires:
A WOMAN WHO’S SUPPORTIVE
Forget all the charade about beauty and romance, every man secretly desires a woman that he’s sure will stand the test of time with him, and a woman that he knows will be there for him at all times.
DOWN TO EARTH WOMAN
I can appreciate ambition. I get the importance of dreaming big. But at the end of the day, I want a woman who savors the little things.
A woman who knows what’s really important in life – family, friendship, love and connection.
She’s honest and practical; she has no patience for pretense. She’s humble and grounded, and doesn’t waist her time and energy chasing after symbols of wealth or status.
She’s just as happy eating around a campfire as she is going out to a five star restaurant.
She is centered and present and easy to be around. That’s the kind of woman a man wants to settle down with.
A WOMAN WITH SENSE OF HUMOUR
There’s nothing worse than someone who doesn’t get humor. Everything just flies over their head. A sense of humor, in a way, is almost one of the best qualities, because it shows that they’re not as likely to take life so seriously.
A WOMAN THAT WILL MAKE HIM BETTER
No man wants to be with a woman and remain the same. Deep within, every man craves for that woman that’ll inspire a positive change in him; a woman that’ll spur him on to be better and that will make him a better man and person.
Any man who finds such a woman, tends to value her for the rest of his life.
A WOMAN WITH MATERNAL QUALITIES
Though not every guy is wondering if his date will make a good mom, when a relationship blossoms for a long enough time, it’s not an usual thing for someone to consider. So if she shows signs of being the perfect woman to help raise his children, it’s a winning trait.
A FAITHFUL AND TRUSTWORTHY WOMAN
This is another thing every man truly wants in a woman. Even a cheating man wants a woman that’s faithful and trustworthy; no man wants to share his woman with another man, and no man likes it when he can’t be rest assured that his woman is true to him. Even the worst of men desire a woman that’ll be faithful.
A WOMAN WHO IS COMFORTABLE IN HER OWN SKIN
Body image issues are so common that it deserves special attention. I know so many women who do not, will not, cannot see themselves as beautiful. Instead they look at themselves and see only their “flaws,” and in a highly exaggerated and magnified way.
I’m not going to lie and say that looks don’t matter. Of course they do, to both women and men. But I’m here to tell you that how you look is not as important as how you feel about your body.
Real beauty isn’t about your weight or your measurements. It doesn’t come from makeup, or designer clothes. It’s about being comfortable in your own skin, at home in your body. It shows in your smile, in the way you walk, in your every movement and gesture.
A WOMAN WHO CAN EXPRESS HERSELF
Psychologists such as Abraham Maslow and Manfred Max-Neef have identified self-expression as a fundamental human need. Well, not only is it important to our happiness and sanity – it’s also extremely attractive.
I admire a woman who shares her thoughts and feelings, who says what’s on her mind. That doesn’t necessarily mean she’s a big talker; she might be quite shy, quiet and introverted. But she finds healthy ways to express herself.
She might communicate through body language, through painting, cooking, or poetry. Or maybe when she’s out on the dance floor, through rhythm and movement. But whatever her method or medium, when she’s in it she comes alive , and her inner world comes pouring out for all the world to see.
And it’s so beautiful.
A PASSIONATE WOMAN
There’s nothing worse than being with someone who’s just apathetic around the clock. So when she’s the kind of person who seems like she truly cares about something passionately (and it doesn’t even what that passion is for), it matters.
Let’s face it: passion is beautiful. I am not talking about sexual passion. I am talking about a woman who is passionate about her ideals, her career, her favorite cause, or sport.
A woman who burns with intensity for the things that she cares about. Her eyes light up whenever she talks about it, her whole being becomes electrified. That energy, intensity and dedication is extremely attractive.
Of course, if that passion carries over into the bedroom after you are legally married, that’s a huge plus.
AN HONEST WOMAN
When there isn’t any trust in a relationship, it’s essentially doomed to fail. Honesty will keep couples out of falling into trust traps. It’ll keep you both from wondering “what they’re up to.”
Sense of humor. There’s nothing worse than someone who doesn’t get humor. Everything just flies over their head.
A WOMAN WITH SENSE OF HUMOUR
A sense of humour, in a way, is almost one of the best qualities, because it shows that they’re not as likely to take life so seriously.
A WOMAN WITH A GOOD CHARACTER/ATTITUDE
Many men are scared of commitment these days because they are scared of committing to a woman that will turn to their worst nightmares when they eventually get married.
Men secretly desire a woman that has that inner beauty and a good character, not just in the present, but in the future as well.
A WOMAN WHO IS NATURALLY KIND
This may seem like a simple sort of trait that someone would look for, but it’s honestly huge. Too many people rely on their cold-hearted negativity to get through the day, and being around that is only going to make you want to jump ship.
A man need to learned to pay attention to how she treats people other than me. Is she polite to the waiter at the restaurant? Does she bad mouth her exes, her coworkers, her friends and family? How does she treat strangers, or pets? You can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat others.
Warmth, kindness, and generosity are incredibly attractive, and absolutely necessary to a healthy, long term relationship.
A RESPECTFUL WOMAN
A man’s ego is boosted when his woman respects him; it makes him feel more masculine. Secretly, a man desires a woman that will treat him with respect in private and in public.
A COMPASSIONATE WOMAN
No matter what your high hopes might tell you, not everyone on this planet is genuinely as kind as you’d like to believe. A lot of people are too worried about themselves to really care about anyone else. So when she’s compassionate, it stands out.
A WOMAN WHO WILL LOVE HIM GENUINELY
Every man wants a woman who will love him truly; not for what he has, not for what she’ll gain, but for whom he is. He feels valued when he knows that his woman’s love for him is sincere.
A WOMAN WHO KNOW HERSELF YET SELFLESS
Selflessness and know herself
Knowing that someone is willing to go out of their way for someone, without worrying about how it’ll affect or benefit them, speaks volumes. This shows that she actually cares, that she doesn’t have all of her attention focused on herself.
Knowing that someone is willing to go out of their way for someone, without worrying about how it’ll affect or benefit them, speaks volumes. This shows that she actually cares, that she doesn’t have all of her attention focused on herself.
She is not lost or confused; she’s in touch with her intuition, her inner compass. She knows what she stands for, what she likes and what she doesn’t. She isn’t trying to be anyone else.
She doesn’t live her life based on the opinion of her friends, her mother, or some fashion magazine. She doesn’t need to go “find herself.” She’s had enough life experience to know who she is, and what she wants – and that is sooo sexy.
A WOMAN WHO GLITTERS WITH HAPPINESS
It seems simple enough, but just being happy is a huge turn on. Though being dark and deep might seem interesting at first, it gets old. It’s got to be depressing, and anyone who enjoys being around that just doesn’t know what to do with themselves as it is.
There is nothing sexier than a woman who is happy with herself, happy with life just, happy. A woman who laughs often, who radiates joy and gladness, who always brightens your day and makes you smile whenever you see her, or think of her.
That’s the kind of person that we all want to be with. Don’t get me wrong – everyone has their bad days, their moments of doubt and despair. But a woman who accepts and loves herself, who knows what she wants out of life and goes after it , is going to have way more good days than bad.
She’s up a lot more than she’s down. She is cheerful, positive and light-hearted, and she just makes you feel good.
And that is the single most attractive quality she, or anyone, can possibly possess.
And that is the single most attractive quality she, or anyone, can possibly possess.
A WOMAN OF INTELLIGENCE
A big brain goes a long way. Intelligence proves to a guy that they can actually sit down and have deep, logical conversations about pretty much anything. There’s nothing hold them back if both of them are interested in thinking outside the box.
No man wants a woman who’s an empty space up there; even when a man is attracted to a woman’s beauty, it will wear out after a while if she has nothing up there. Every man secretly desires a woman with beauty and brains.
There is something so sexy about a woman who is witty, educated, thoughtful, who can hold her own in any conversation. And I don’t necessarily mean “book smarts,” or academic knowledge. I’m more interested in wisdom, street smarts, sense of humor, emotional intelligence.
A woman who likes to ponder life’s deep questions, who will sit with me under the stars and talk all night about the mysteries of the universe.
A DEDICATED WOMAN
If you don’t give something your all, then what’s the point? Life’s short. You work, have fun and then you die. So when she’s the kind of girl who always seems to have her eyes on the prize, she’s going to have his attention without even trying.
A WOMAN OF UNDERSTANDING
Understanding is very important to a man, and every man secretly desires a woman that he can build an understanding relationship with.
He desires a woman who isn’t just interested in herself, but is more interested in the success of the relationship.
A WOMAN WHO IS UNIQUE
Nobody wants to date a lifeless drone. Copycats aren’t cute. So when she’s representing something that’s never really been seen before, it’s exciting. It’s fresh. It’s definitely going to get people’s attention.
A WOMAN WITH SELF CONFIDENCE SELF RESPECT AND QUIRKY ATIMES
A woman who’s confident in herself is another example of a woman that every man secretly desires. The self-confidence of a woman adds an extra dose of charm to her personality. Although there is a thin line between self-confidence and pride, and most men are turned off by pride.
So me people can become so insecure with themselves that they lose part of themselves. Not only is it unfortunate, it’s obvious. So if she cares enough about herself to never settle on anything less than what she deserves, it says a lot about how she’ll be in a relationship.
Real confidence comes from knowing yourself deep down, and accepting who you are. Knowing that you are good enough, just as you are. You don’t need to change or fix anything, for anybody. A woman can, and should, know her own worth, and be confident in who she is and what she has to offer. It’s incredibly sexy.
It’s exciting finding someone who’s not afraid to be themselves. It’s a much more significant trait than a pretty face. So if she’s fine with being a goofball in public or indulging in her weird habits, then more power to her. That is quirkiness.
END NOTE
Now if this list above seems impossible to you, you’re absolutely right. No one person is going to possess all these qualities. And if you do, then you should get some kind of award, or something.
The point is not to beat yourself up about the things that don’t describe you. The point is to remind you what real beauty is.
In a culture obsessed with appearance, it’s easy to get caught up in how we look, how we dress or what we weigh, and what other people think.
Everywhere we look we are presented with an impossible “ideal” of physical beauty. Even the models who best fit the look are not “perfect enough,” and are plastered with makeup and Photoshopped to the point where they are almost unrecognizable.
But you don’t need to look like a supermodel or a Barbie doll to attract a good man. You don’t have to compare yourself to anyone else’s idea of beauty.
Because what matters the most is not how you appear on the outside; it’s who you are, on the inside.
And a grown man, the kind of man you want and deserve, knows it. He cares more about the content of your character than the size of your waistline. He sees you, all of you, deep down – where your real beauty lies.
However, it is not out of place to discard unattractive qualities and Cultivate the attractive ones to enrich your marital life in happiness, prosperity, harmony and peace in a serene environment called home with your wonderful husband and lovely children forming a joyous family at the end.
There are millions of dysfunctional families around the world don't add to the skyrocketing number at hand.
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