Generally women tend to rely on words, while men rely on actions . So, when men speaks in sugar coated tongue to women, women believe them, even if their words doesn't correlate with their actions.
Men, on the other hand, see how women behave and interpret the behavior to mean what they want to believe, regardless of what the woman says. So, if you say you don't love him but continue to have affair or make love with him , all your words are in vain; he interprets your actions and draws his own conclusions about how you feel.
Hence, this discrepancy between words and behavior is especially problematic in marriage-knot relationships.
1. Man That Flirt
This man loves to flirt with strangers, waiters, neighbours and even your friends be online or offline. If the man want to flirt he should flirt with you and only you, no matter the circumstance. He need to discipline himself when he is in the company of opposite sex. That last thing you want is to be married to a man who will deliberately flirt with ladies or women in front of you, let alone behind your back. It is a NO go area.
Men, on the other hand, see how women behave and interpret the behavior to mean what they want to believe, regardless of what the woman says. So, if you say you don't love him but continue to have affair or make love with him , all your words are in vain; he interprets your actions and draws his own conclusions about how you feel.
Hence, this discrepancy between words and behavior is especially problematic in marriage-knot relationships.
1. Man That Flirt
This man loves to flirt with strangers, waiters, neighbours and even your friends be online or offline. If the man want to flirt he should flirt with you and only you, no matter the circumstance. He need to discipline himself when he is in the company of opposite sex. That last thing you want is to be married to a man who will deliberately flirt with ladies or women in front of you, let alone behind your back. It is a NO go area.
2. A Man That Lies Often
A man that lie often doesn't deserve to be your marriage mate. It takes a lie to form another lie in an habitual process in the long run. Don’t trust a man who is constantly lying to you. If you continue to ignore or allow such inconsistencies, he will eventually dig the grave of your relationship in which the foundation is built on lies. It will be bury sooner or later shockingly or unexpected except solution is proffer before the unbearable limit.
A man that lie often doesn't deserve to be your marriage mate. It takes a lie to form another lie in an habitual process in the long run. Don’t trust a man who is constantly lying to you. If you continue to ignore or allow such inconsistencies, he will eventually dig the grave of your relationship in which the foundation is built on lies. It will be bury sooner or later shockingly or unexpected except solution is proffer before the unbearable limit.
3. The abusive Man
Why on earth would you want to be with an abusive man? You can say it is because of love, he will change soon, yet it is becoming worse, even off and on( loving caring and sympathetic today in later time he put on his monstrous abusive act) or you love him so much or better still he has certain qualities that is appealing to you so you can accommodate his abusive behaviour.
Why on earth would you want to be with an abusive man? You can say it is because of love, he will change soon, yet it is becoming worse, even off and on( loving caring and sympathetic today in later time he put on his monstrous abusive act) or you love him so much or better still he has certain qualities that is appealing to you so you can accommodate his abusive behaviour.
Remember your love will be diluted if the abusive act leads to a permanent disfigured body nor can you love in grave if the abusive behaviour leads to untimely death. Don't let love block your thinking faculty or block your sensibility. You are too precious for a man who abuse you verbally, psychological, emotionally and physically. The choice is yours.
The bullet of truth is never be with a man who has no control over his anger and frustration. It is okay if your man gets angry once in a while, however if you have noticed that your man gets mad over the silliest things and vents out in an abusive manner, you know you should walk out. Eventually you too will get emotionally drained out. If your man is verbally abusive now, chances are he will get physically abusive too.
So never consider marrying a man who has anger issues. Did you know some men are addicted to abuse? Some genetically predisposed to it? While others to satisfy their ego? It is hell to be in relationship with an abusive but caring man it open less window to take the right decision whether to walk out or stay it alters your logical reasoning and doubt. You know what am talking about if you have experience it.
So never consider marrying a man who has anger issues. Did you know some men are addicted to abuse? Some genetically predisposed to it? While others to satisfy their ego? It is hell to be in relationship with an abusive but caring man it open less window to take the right decision whether to walk out or stay it alters your logical reasoning and doubt. You know what am talking about if you have experience it.
4. The Workaholic Man
So this is the kind of man you should really be wary of. It is okay to be career oriented, but if your man only thinks about work whole day long, then you should reconsider your choice. A man who is too involved in his work will never give any suggestions or opinions in any matter whatsoever especially when there are relationship issues to deal with. They will just hear you out silently, nod and say ‘ whatever you like.’ They will never take an initiative to make plans, discuss about future or anything. If you marry a man like this, you are likely to feel lonely, because he won’t be available emotionally, although he might be financially buoyant and splash cash on you for you to throw around trust me it will not last for long. Knowing fully well money can buy effective communication, emotional support and genuine care of essence of love.
So this is the kind of man you should really be wary of. It is okay to be career oriented, but if your man only thinks about work whole day long, then you should reconsider your choice. A man who is too involved in his work will never give any suggestions or opinions in any matter whatsoever especially when there are relationship issues to deal with. They will just hear you out silently, nod and say ‘ whatever you like.’ They will never take an initiative to make plans, discuss about future or anything. If you marry a man like this, you are likely to feel lonely, because he won’t be available emotionally, although he might be financially buoyant and splash cash on you for you to throw around trust me it will not last for long. Knowing fully well money can buy effective communication, emotional support and genuine care of essence of love.
5. The overly control dominant Man
Everyone likes a bit of control, but control freaks take things way too far.
Especially male control freaks.
Men have evolved in such a way that, when male control freaks don’t get what they want, they react only one way – they get angry. And when a control freak gets angry, they become intimidating.
Sometimes, they even get physically violent. The control freak loses control.
Marrying a control freak shouldn’t even be an option. The only people that can help them are professionally trained therapists. You should just move on.
6.The Over Possessive Man
So this guy has a problem with everything you do. The kind of dress you wear, who you talk to, how much you talk to other men, why you posted a certain thing on social media and so on. If your man is crazily obsessed about every small thing you do and has a problem with it, imagine having to deal with this for the rest of your life. You might mistake it for caring and loving, but this is nothing but toxic. And however hard you try, you will never be able to earn the trust of a man like this.
The fact is every person has their own life which do not get over after getting married, so you should not marry a man who wants to kill your personal life. Boys who always wants your updates that where are you going, what are you doing, with whom you are going etc, they want your single sec/minute updates and if you forgot to update them they will start a fight, this type of man are not good for getting married. Even you should avoid to date them also.
So this guy has a problem with everything you do. The kind of dress you wear, who you talk to, how much you talk to other men, why you posted a certain thing on social media and so on. If your man is crazily obsessed about every small thing you do and has a problem with it, imagine having to deal with this for the rest of your life. You might mistake it for caring and loving, but this is nothing but toxic. And however hard you try, you will never be able to earn the trust of a man like this.
The fact is every person has their own life which do not get over after getting married, so you should not marry a man who wants to kill your personal life. Boys who always wants your updates that where are you going, what are you doing, with whom you are going etc, they want your single sec/minute updates and if you forgot to update them they will start a fight, this type of man are not good for getting married. Even you should avoid to date them also.
7. Heavy Cheater Man
Don’t marry a man who is again and again cheating on you and after cheating he says sorry, such man never fell sorry and they will do it again because they know that you will going to forgive him again. This type of man are a big cheater and he will cheat you after marriage also so never trust on this type of man.
Don't allow yourself to be blinded by certain peculiar qualities, behaviour or uniqueness he possess thinking it is an insurance for bad behaviour you are surely mistaken especially promiscuity. It is more complex than you ever thought of, some men will cheat till they die nothing Can change that. Some will manage to control such sexual misbehaviour yet still repeat it over and over again with a span of space. While others can actually overcome it but it is difficult to find such individual. Promiscuity is an ingrain habits that is biological and psychological in nature. So if you desire to put up with such man is up to you.
Don’t marry a man who is again and again cheating on you and after cheating he says sorry, such man never fell sorry and they will do it again because they know that you will going to forgive him again. This type of man are a big cheater and he will cheat you after marriage also so never trust on this type of man.
Don't allow yourself to be blinded by certain peculiar qualities, behaviour or uniqueness he possess thinking it is an insurance for bad behaviour you are surely mistaken especially promiscuity. It is more complex than you ever thought of, some men will cheat till they die nothing Can change that. Some will manage to control such sexual misbehaviour yet still repeat it over and over again with a span of space. While others can actually overcome it but it is difficult to find such individual. Promiscuity is an ingrain habits that is biological and psychological in nature. So if you desire to put up with such man is up to you.
8. The Addicted Man
Any addiction becomes an extra work for the partner involved. If you suspect he might be an alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex, etc addict, then it is better to save yourself future pain and unhappiness by looking for someone else. Dating an addict automatically puts you and your family in second place. Something else will always come first and this would usually have an adverse effect on you and your marriage.
Any addiction becomes an extra work for the partner involved. If you suspect he might be an alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex, etc addict, then it is better to save yourself future pain and unhappiness by looking for someone else. Dating an addict automatically puts you and your family in second place. Something else will always come first and this would usually have an adverse effect on you and your marriage.
9. The Mother's Pet Man
You should avoid to marry a mother's pet man. These types of man are proved to be a good son but not good husbands. They will always compare you from there mom which will become very bad for your personal relation. They will always want you to do work same as there mom. He will not going to blame his mom for any reasons as in his eyes his mom can’t do anything wrong. By marrying such a boy your life will turn out to be a competition, you always have to compete from his mom. So its better to avoid such boys.
You should avoid to marry a mother's pet man. These types of man are proved to be a good son but not good husbands. They will always compare you from there mom which will become very bad for your personal relation. They will always want you to do work same as there mom. He will not going to blame his mom for any reasons as in his eyes his mom can’t do anything wrong. By marrying such a boy your life will turn out to be a competition, you always have to compete from his mom. So its better to avoid such boys.
10. Man Who Spend Extravagantly
A mab who spends all his salary for fun or shopping or something else are not fit for married life, you should marry with someone who is financially stable, it doesn't mean that only money matters or you should marry a guy for money but It means that after getting married you get so many responsibility on your head so to fulfill those responsibility your mate should be responsible enough to take care of his family. He should spend carefully.
A mab who spends all his salary for fun or shopping or something else are not fit for married life, you should marry with someone who is financially stable, it doesn't mean that only money matters or you should marry a guy for money but It means that after getting married you get so many responsibility on your head so to fulfill those responsibility your mate should be responsible enough to take care of his family. He should spend carefully.
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