How men feels when they are disrespected by their partner

Men view love and respect differently from the perceptive of women. Love and respect is like a wheel of a bicycle. The front wheel of the bicycle is represented by LOVE while the back wheel is RESPECT for Women. So, women prefer to be loved first followed by respect.

However, for men the front wheel of the bicycle is RESPECT while the back wheel is LOVE. Hence, men prefer to be respected first then loved.

Most women and ladies seems not to get this they often love their man more and respect them less instead of respecting them more yet maintain their love. 

It is not unusual for men to say they would rather be respected and loved less than to be loved and disrespected. It might sound weird it turns out to be true. 

Respect means a lot to a man, and when his woman disrespects him, there are some thoughts that play in his head. In this article I have point out ways in which a man feels when a woman disrespect him, signs a woman is showing disrespect and ways a woman is displaying respect towards her man.

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WAYS YOU DISRESPECT YOUR PARTNER 

YOU DISGRACE HIM IN PUBLIC 

It is a gross disrespect for you to point out his faults, criticize, or correct him in public it is a deed embarrassment to men. He feels like an idiot in front of others—and that's demeaning. Don't embarrass him in any way (especially in front of your children for married couples). 

Ask yourself Would you want him to do that to you?

SHE HAS AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR WITH ANOTHER MAN 

Men tend to ignore signs of an emotional affair because they are usually fine as long as actual intimacy does not happen.

They can notice their woman being friendly with someone else, but if there is a guarantee that closer relations are not happening, then they look the other way. But cheating, whether emotional or physical is a sign of disrespect. She is disrespecting you and the whole relationship.

YOU OFTEN REMIND HIM OF HIS PAST FAILURES 

At some point in our life we have tasted failure while trying to achieve our goals. Reminding your partner his past failures is a bad idea,it doesn't change the failure into success it only creates tension and friction between both of you. Thinking through the failure with your partner is a positive thing to do that enhance the relationship bond.

Let go of things that that have been work through already and settled. If there are unresolved issues that were never dealt with at present, take conscious steps to graciously resolve them and move on. You love your partner less if you often resurrect his past failures it is a sign of gross disrespect.

As earlier said referring him back to his past failures  will not resolve the issues confronting you at the moment. Sometimes due to emotional tensity hurtful words might be thrown careless that might create more friction including referring to the past failing if it happens regularly during conversion that will be an outright contempt and disrespect to him.

Even when things are not going on well as it may be it is the time you support him, motivate him to rebuild what is not working at the moment it will also be the time to brainstorm, give ideas, share information, discuss and analyze what is the best options available to move forward without referring to past failures that is the quality of a virtuous woman.

SHE DOES NOT CELEBRATE YOU

A woman who respects you will appreciate your hard work and celebrate you when you have achieved something. You can see the true joy and pride in her eyes when you tell her something worked out for you. 

At that time, she is proud of you as her man. If you share something great and she simply ignores you or just offers a fake smile like she does not care, then respect is lacking.

YOU LASH AT HIM IMMEDIATELY HE COMES HOME NAGGING AND COMPLAINING 

As a polite and virtuous woman you ought to hug your man when he comes in from work! meet him with a kiss and some love. 

Give him an encouraging word, and hold off on letting him know what a tough time you've had. He has had a long day. (You might have faced a challenging day yourself, but you show genuine love and care for your man when you take interest in him and his day above your own.) He's been hit with challenges that you haven't faced, and perhaps he fought battles you'll never know about. Be what makes it all worth coming home to.

You don't need to add more to his stressful day. Such uncivilized behaviour by some women have driven their partners to extreme psychological pressure,seperation, divorce, even suicide. Women can sometimes nagg men to the point of death.

SHE DISRESPECT THOSE YOU CARE FOR BE FAMILY, FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES 

A woman who fakes respect might show her respect to you, but you will find that she does not respect those you care for. 

She acts nonchalantly when she is with your family, friends, or other people who mean a lot to you. This is not true respect.

YOU EXPECT HIM TO PLAY ALONG LIKE YOUR FRIENDS 
He's probably not a scrapbooker, or a fan of spending five hours shopping. An afternoon in the nail salon is probably not his idea of fun. He's not going to communicate with you like your best friend or want to know the complete story you want to tell—down to the very last detail. 

Appreciate him for being a man, and leave the girl stuff to your girlfriends. Although it is not out place to discuss similar interest however pushing him beyond the limit of his capabilities knowing fully well is not a woman neither can he flow just like your friends. The little he can do let him be that will be a sign of respect. 

YOU EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND 

Just tell him. Don't play those mind games where you are thinking  If he really loved me, I wouldn't have to tell him that I want him to . . . (fill in the blank). 

Your partner  will be so grateful if you'll ditch the mind-reading game and just have some honest and gracious communication.

As I have mentioned earlier men are not superhero nor possess the abilities to read mind trying to let him figure out certain things at all time will only show you are belittling him as a man as we all of our limitations including you even if he is a smart type the limitation will still set in no matter what.

Instead of playing mind game all the time it is better you pour your heart out to him as regards to what is in your mind or what is not doing right, the way he is treating you, your need, your observations and much more in a polite and respectful manner that will not lower his ego in disrespect that might torment him psychological and hurt him emotionally. 

YOU TREAT HIM LIKE YOUR CHILD

Men know they don't think like we do. They know it can be challenging to measure up to our expectations or desires. When they forget to close the lid on the toilet, it's not because they want to irritate you. When they take the long route because they forgot the right exit, it's not because they want to burn that extra gas.

When you talk to your partner in the same tone you would use with your children, it's disrespectful. Men are not superhero they are made of flesh and blood too cloth with imperfection a  lot often go on in their mind. Stop treating them like a child in any way through communication or when venting your frustration.

YOU ARE COMFORTABLE DISCUSSING ABOUT OTHER MEN

Does your woman randomly talk about men she finds attractive? Or does she go on and on about her friend's man or someone else she knows that is doing something she finds impressive? This is her passive aggressive way of letting you know you do not impress her.

She might not come out and say it, but bruising your ego by talking about other men she finds attractive, impressive or manly is a sign that she does not care about your feelings. This is disrespectful.

YOU WAKE HIM UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT FOR EMOTIONALLY CHARGE TALK

Don't wait until bedtime to bring up a topic of discussion that has the potential to put the two of you on opposite sides of an all-out battle until near dawn. If you need to have a conversation that has the potential for major conflict or emotion, do it early in the evening (or maybe save it for a morning when he's home).

Respect his need to get some rest. It is a sign of respect to learn him rest instead cut cycling his sleep pattern which might affect him physically, psychological and emotionally as the body needs adequate rest to cool off the stress hormone known as cortisol.

Stress hormones if very active it can cause physical irritation, irrational behaviour, increase anger, emotional instability, affect logical reasoning and other physiological issues. Waking him to discuss emotional draining issues or psychological tasking issues it might not get the appropriate attention, response and information you are looking for.

Although sometimes it is necessary as result of the sensitive of the matter and the state of mind of your partner if the need be it should be done with utmost care and respect.

YOU BASH HIM BEHIND HIS BACK 

It is a huge sign of disrespect if your woman does not have anything nice to say about you when with her friends or family. 

She might pretend in your presence, but as soon as you turn your back, she has nothing but negative words about you for whoever is willing to listen.

True respect exists even when you are not there to see it. So, watch out for what she says behind your back, it will tell you what she truly thinks.

YOU COMPARE HIM TO OTHER MEN 

Your partner may not seem not to possess some certain qualities or intellectual abilities, even social skills.

He may not treat you the same way you see that "perfect man". treat his wife or lover, or accomplish certain task, goals etc. But your partner  probably has some worthy qualities you may be missing because you're so focused on what he's "not."

Rather than comparing him to another man, why not  open your eyes meticulously to see things you've not yet appreciated about him?

It is preferable to motivate him to to acquire  the qualities or whatsoever you desire in another man in such a way that it might not demean him as a man or accept him just as he is, loving him in the first place shows you saw and cherish certain qualities in him or what he has achieved so far before you have a relationship with him except your relationship was built on infatuation or unsolid foundation. 

YOU GAVE HIM SILENT TREATMENT 

Whenever you use the silent treatment to manipulate him, it harms both of you. The silent treatment is a hostile punishment tool.

Don't make things more difficult by clamming up or stuffing your anger. If you're hurt or angry, ask Him to search your heart to see if the anger is righteous or if there is some offense that needs to be discussed. 

Talk it out with your partner about it. Be honest and humble in your communication, and remember—he's not your enemy!

You are part of your partner he is part of you challenges common in committed love is bound to occur open communication is the key to resove committed love issues with honesty, trust, understanding and endurance. 

YOU USE SEX AS A WEAPON

The gift of sexual intimacy is to be an expression of unselfish love. It's a physical demonstration of spiritual unity and moral obligations.

Don't withhold yourself to punish your husband or partner, and don't use your intimacy as a bribing technique. Honor your marriage bed as sacred, and love your partner well.

It is a common trend among female folks to use sex starvation as a weapon to get back at their partner which often result to infidelity, cold love, marital problems and divorce on the part of the man whom they push to the wall of temptation among other women.

Every man have their own signature of emotional discipline and moral standing they might cross the line of intimacy boundaries as a result of the sexual starvation by their partner and look for it elsewhere as a visual stimulated being.

Women using sex as a weapon is not a good idea in committed relationships especially the one that have gone through test of time and the fresh ones.

SHE DOES NOT ASK FOR YOUR OPINION

Asking your opinion is different from asking your permission. Asking your opinion means she values your idea and intelligence. Asking permission simply means she just does not want trouble. You should recognise the difference if you want to know a woman who respect you. 

She will intently listen when you talk about how something should be. She would not simply just wait for a 'yes' or 'no' from you and move on. She respects who you are so much that she is interested in knowing what you truly think.

HOW A MAN FEELS WHEN YOU DISRESPECT HIM

YOU DON’T VALUE HIM

Men are not robots they are human with feelings too.When a man feels disrespected, one major thing that comes into his mind is that you don’t value him and that he isn’t important to you.

When a woman don't respect a man it means to him you don't value him, if you shower him with respect it shows you do value him pure and simple. 

HE FEELS HURT

Respect means a lot to a man. That is why his ego is boosted when he is respected and he feel hurt if he is disrespected by the woman he loves dearly. 

Most men can’t handle being disrespected by their partner; it breaks a man’s soul. That is the make up of a man that most women don't get.

HE COULD REGRET BEING IN THE RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

When a man that have invest so much time, energy and resources in marriage or relationship is being disrespected it brings so many negative thoughts to his mind, and one of them is the thought of regret.

Most men become disappointed in relationships/marriages where they are disrespected, and that disappointment turns to regrets most times.

DENT IN CONFIDENT

A man core values and body image is affected if he is constantly disrespected by his partner it wash off his confidence and injure his ego.

Disrespect to a man means he isn’t valued, and every man loves to be valued. When he feels that he isn’t valued by his own woman, it would hurt his ego and confidence, and he may begin to feel insecure. When insecurity set in he started to pull back doing less than he is doing in the relationship, coming late to be with his partner they see no need to do so a home with a woman that disrespect him is a big turn down to him. 

He will lost his sense of happiness he once felt at the beginning of the the relationship. Disrespect can cripple a man's heart towards his woman.

THAT YOU DON’T LOVE HIM

MEN often link respect to love not love to respect If you disrespect a man and tell him you love him, he wouldn’t believe you. 

Disrespect to a man means you don’t love him. Men equate love with respect, and disrespect with hate.

“A man’s highest need is to feel respect, whereas a woman’s highest need is to feel loved.”

YOU DON’T APPRECIATE HIM

You can't disrespect a man you love and think you appreciate him it is other way round. He wouldn’t feel appreciated when he is disrespected. When you disrespect a man, he feels unappreciated, uncared for and unimportant.

Are you one of those women who disrespect their man? These are some of those things you are doing to him.

"He needs her to respect his judgment and not always question his knowledge or argue with his decisions".

SIGNS A WOMAN RESPECT HER PARTNER

THEY DON’T EXPECT YOU TO PAY FOR EVERYTHING 

 A woman who respect her man don’t care if he pay for her or not. It’s something that doesn’t really cross her mind.

If she expects or even demands that you pay for everything. Then she has no respect for you. A woman who respect you don't push all the responsibilitie to you. She is happy and willing to carry some of the responsibilities on her shoulder without demanding you to pay all the bills or abandone all the financial expenses under your care. That is a respectful  responsible woman. Hold her closely and avoid taking her advantage of her initiative  as a man. 

SHE WOULD NOT  BAD MOUTH YOU IN FRONT OF OTHERS

A woman who respect you will not bad mouth you or make a snide remarks in front of others to get a reaction or contribution from them.

It is a big red flag for a woman to bad mouth her man in front of others. That will prove she does not respect you. Don't allow love or your desire blind you from seeing the truth before you. Man up. 

SHE WOULD NOT THROW A HISSY FIT WHEN YOU SAY “NO”

Women that respect their men don't throw a his sympathy fit. They take No for an answer and move on with life by adapting to the situation at hand showing understanding according. 

They never throw a hissy  fist to get their man attention to give in to their demand  at all cost. They never scream, shout or throw insult in any way. That is a respectful woman that knows her boundary. They take NO for an answer in respect to their man. It is a sign of wife material and wisdom in display. They knew a man is the authority in a relationship so they avoid forcing  their demands unnecessarily on their partner. 

SHE WOULD NOT TEST YOU IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS

A woman of respect will not disrespect you in front of her friends during healthy conversations, engaging in an activities as group, during a joke or when argument erupt. She will draw her manner close to her heart without letting it out to the point of disrespecting in front of her friends. 

She comport  herself at all times without altering any negative remarks that might demean her partner in the presence of her friends. Even when the conversation is in line of testing her directly or indirect in form pressure statements, weaknesses, failure or minor misconduct, mistakes on the part of her partner she still maintain her respect for him. 

SHE WOULD NOT BELITTLE OR OVERLY CRITICISE YOU

A woman who respect you will not criticise you when she is alone with her partner. Aslo, she does not belittle whatsoever. She register her concern politely with clear manner of love and respect when she observe what is not going on well in their relationship without overly criticising, belittling or insult him. 

She respect and adorn her man. She has faith and confidence in her partner abilities and skills even in the face of testing circumstances. She knows how valuable her partner is so she love and support him.