The rate of multiple dating among guys is alarming this days when compared to years back. Thanks to movies, songs and books that revealed the secret on how to have many girlfriends without being caught.
Often times women are bombarded with constant thoughts of their partners uncertainty fidelity. No one wants to deal with being cheated on it can be traumatic if the reality is true after consuming foundations of trust youReason why a man cheats laid for days, weeks or years in the relationship and you discovered it was a just a transparent lie triggering an atomic bomb in the heart.
Ladies, are you falling for a guy who shows some signs of a mystery man? Use these cues of researched facts to know for sure if the guy you like/love already has a girlfriend.
#1. HIS CELL PHONE IS STRICTLY OFF LIMITS
Your boyfriend has made it clear (even without telling you directly) that his cell phone is off limits. It's password protected and he never leaves it lying around. If this is his attitude, chances are there are things on his cell he doesn't want you to know about. This should make you wonder if he has a secret girlfriend because he should be able to trust you, you should be able to trust him, and it's hard to establish trust when there is a mystery cell phone in the picture. Another red flag.
Your boyfriend has made it clear (even without telling you directly) that his cell phone is off limits. It's password protected and he never leaves it lying around. If this is his attitude, chances are there are things on his cell he doesn't want you to know about. This should make you wonder if he has a secret girlfriend because he should be able to trust you, you should be able to trust him, and it's hard to establish trust when there is a mystery cell phone in the picture. Another red flag.
#2. #1 UNANSWERED PHONE CALLS
This is one of the most common red flags to watch out for when a guy you’re dating is already taken. It’s common for people in relationships to want to call each other just to check in or say “Hi” but when you do this to your guy, he doesn’t answer the phone.
This is one of the most common red flags to watch out for when a guy you’re dating is already taken. It’s common for people in relationships to want to call each other just to check in or say “Hi” but when you do this to your guy, he doesn’t answer the phone.
Often, guys in a relationship would only prefer to text and would only answer your call at certain times of the day, especially when he’s at work. When he’s home, he rejects your calls or even turns his phone off.
#3. PSEUDONYM
Your name is stored with a different name or some cryptic pseudonym on his phone. This alone should raise red flags. A guy who hides your name under a different name on his phone definitely has something to hide, more specifically another woman who checks on his phone too.
Your name is stored with a different name or some cryptic pseudonym on his phone. This alone should raise red flags. A guy who hides your name under a different name on his phone definitely has something to hide, more specifically another woman who checks on his phone too.
#4. SPENDING VERY LITTLE TIME TOGETHER
Although you both meet up quite regularly, you don’t spend more than a handful of hours together.
Although you both meet up quite regularly, you don’t spend more than a handful of hours together.
He always has ‘something urgent’ to take care of. Then you realize that he has rarely ever spent the whole night with you, making you think that he’s in and out of your life whenever he feels like it. So you may start to wonder if he’s saving his time and energy for his real commitment?
#5. YOU DON'T HAVE PUBLIC DATES
Did you ever notice that each time you go out he takes you to a place he has never been to before? When asking how to tell if a guy has a girlfriend, this is a sure sign.
Did you ever notice that each time you go out he takes you to a place he has never been to before? When asking how to tell if a guy has a girlfriend, this is a sure sign.
If he has such behavior it means that he doesn’t want you to run into people who might actually know him and that he already has a girlfriend. In such situations you might confront him about the problem and just see how he acts. If he’s evasive, you can be sure that there is something he needs to hide (or it’s actually you he needs to keep from the eyes of the world).
#6. NO PICTURE OF YOU ON SOCIAL MEDIA
For sure he has pictures with his friends on his Facebook page, but why does he refuse to post any photos of the two of you? You may be asking yourself “should I ask him again?”.
For sure he has pictures with his friends on his Facebook page, but why does he refuse to post any photos of the two of you? You may be asking yourself “should I ask him again?”.
If he said no several times before, what makes you think that the answer could be anything different this time? Most probably you represent a part of his life he prefers to keep hidden for one reason or the other. All there is left for you to do is to find his reason and then make a decision. For sure you don’t want to become the “other woman
#7. HE IS SUPER SUSPICIOUS OF YOU
It has been said that those who are hiding something often suspect the other person of doing the same. There is a lot of truth behind that statement.
It has been said that those who are hiding something often suspect the other person of doing the same. There is a lot of truth behind that statement.
If he is overly suspicious of you and what you are up to it may be his guilt projecting on to you. Some insecurity can be chalked up to past relationships, but really if he isn’t hiding anything he may just be an overly jealous jerk.
#8. HE ACCIDENTALLY CALLS YOU BY ANOTHER WOMAN’S NAME
If this happens, you head is going to jolt back and he going to have to quickly muster up an embarrassed excuse or pretend that he didn’t notice. Never ignore when a guy calls you another woman’s name, whether you are just having a normal conversation on the phone or in the throes of passionate love-making.
If this happens, you head is going to jolt back and he going to have to quickly muster up an embarrassed excuse or pretend that he didn’t notice. Never ignore when a guy calls you another woman’s name, whether you are just having a normal conversation on the phone or in the throes of passionate love-making.
Stop what you are doing immediately and confront him. Don’t give him time to think about it – get an answer there and then – who is she? When put on the spot a guy is more likely to make common mistakes like lying. Hopefully he won’t know too many women with the same name though and you can do your research. If he says it’s his sister and he doesn’t have a sister, he’s caught. If he says its an old colleague but can’t back it up afterwards, you’re gone!
#9. HE SEEMS COMPLETELY DISCONNECTED WHEN YOU GET EMOTIONAL WITH HIM.
When women date, they anticipate the12 time in their relationships when they fall for the guy and can tell him how they feel. However, if you open up to your man and tell him how you feel repeatedly and he doesn’t reciprocate and/or tries to downplay the entire topic, this could be a sign that his heart lies elsewhere.
When women date, they anticipate the12 time in their relationships when they fall for the guy and can tell him how they feel. However, if you open up to your man and tell him how you feel repeatedly and he doesn’t reciprocate and/or tries to downplay the entire topic, this could be a sign that his heart lies elsewhere.
#10. YOU HAVE NEVER MET HIS FRIENDS or FAMILY
If you’ve been dating for, say, eight weeks and you’ve never laid eyes on his friends or family, it’s time to start asking questions. Chances are, you aren’t his girlfriend. Sure, we all get busy and sometimes work sends us places where friends and family are scarce. But most likely he’s avoiding this introduction for a reason, and you need to know why.
If you’ve been dating for, say, eight weeks and you’ve never laid eyes on his friends or family, it’s time to start asking questions. Chances are, you aren’t his girlfriend. Sure, we all get busy and sometimes work sends us places where friends and family are scarce. But most likely he’s avoiding this introduction for a reason, and you need to know why.
BONUS
*You’ve Never Seen His Place
Does he have a load of reasons why you can’t go to his place? “My roommates are pigs.” “I never have time to clean it up.” “Your place is so much nicer. It doesn’t make sense to go to mine.” After some period of time you’ve GOT to see his space. It’s hard to really know a person without seeing where they live, so if he’s giving you the stiff arm about a visit to his home, chances are something’s amiss
*You’ve Never Seen His Place
Does he have a load of reasons why you can’t go to his place? “My roommates are pigs.” “I never have time to clean it up.” “Your place is so much nicer. It doesn’t make sense to go to mine.” After some period of time you’ve GOT to see his space. It’s hard to really know a person without seeing where they live, so if he’s giving you the stiff arm about a visit to his home, chances are something’s amiss
*You Are Introduced as “My Friend” or Just by Name
It is common and natural to share a person’s connection to you when you introduce them, i.e. “This is my father, Bill.” Some men will try to trot out the old “I’m not into labels” sawhorse, but if he introduces you as “a friend,” that’s exactly what you are. You’re not his girlfriend.
It is common and natural to share a person’s connection to you when you introduce them, i.e. “This is my father, Bill.” Some men will try to trot out the old “I’m not into labels” sawhorse, but if he introduces you as “a friend,” that’s exactly what you are. You’re not his girlfriend.
*He’s Hot and Cold
Is he hot when he wants to see you and cold when he doesn’t ? Are things always on his terms? If you showed up at his work for lunch and said, “Surprise!” would he have a heart attack? All very good signs that you are not his girlfriend.
Is he hot when he wants to see you and cold when he doesn’t ? Are things always on his terms? If you showed up at his work for lunch and said, “Surprise!” would he have a heart attack? All very good signs that you are not his girlfriend.
*He Refuses To Show Affection In Public
PDA should never be an issue in any relationship, so long as it’s within reason. But if you go to grab his hand and he pulls his away, or you never kiss or get too close when you’re out together, this could be a sign that you’re a side chick. This also gives him room to lie to his “main chick” about who you are if you two happen to be seen.
PDA should never be an issue in any relationship, so long as it’s within reason. But if you go to grab his hand and he pulls his away, or you never kiss or get too close when you’re out together, this could be a sign that you’re a side chick. This also gives him room to lie to his “main chick” about who you are if you two happen to be seen.
*You Have a “Secret Spot ” That He Tries To Play Off As Romantic
Every couple has a favorite spot to eat or hang out. However, if he choses to always take you miles outside of the city or to venues with very little traffic, it’s a possibility he’s trying to be discreet about being out with you, without letting you know.
Every couple has a favorite spot to eat or hang out. However, if he choses to always take you miles outside of the city or to venues with very little traffic, it’s a possibility he’s trying to be discreet about being out with you, without letting you know.
*He Always Wants To Meet Late At Night
If you only meet after dark or after reasonable date hours, such as 11pm or later, chances are he has another life that he leads – the hours prior to those late night “booty call” hours.
If you only meet after dark or after reasonable date hours, such as 11pm or later, chances are he has another life that he leads – the hours prior to those late night “booty call” hours.
*He Prefers To Stay In When You’re Together
If your guy always strays away from going out or always wants to just come to your place to hang out, this is a major side chick indicator. There’s a difference between a guy being a homebody and trying to be sneaky with your relationship. Every couple has dinner at restaurants or goes on movie dates from time to time.
If your guy always strays away from going out or always wants to just come to your place to hang out, this is a major side chick indicator. There’s a difference between a guy being a homebody and trying to be sneaky with your relationship. Every couple has dinner at restaurants or goes on movie dates from time to time.
*You’re Never Invited To Family Gatherings
If you have never met a guy’s parents and children or haven’t been to any events that include his friends, this is another side chick indicator.
If you have never met a guy’s parents and children or haven’t been to any events that include his friends, this is another side chick indicator.
*He Has To Go Suddenly Whenever You’re On The Phone
When you speak to your guy on the phone, if he speaks to you in a very formal tone without even addressing you by name more often than not, that’s a definite sign you are a side chick. If he’s always gotta go suddenly or straight up hangs up on you out of nowhere from time to time, that’s probably because his actual girlfriend got home
When you speak to your guy on the phone, if he speaks to you in a very formal tone without even addressing you by name more often than not, that’s a definite sign you are a side chick. If he’s always gotta go suddenly or straight up hangs up on you out of nowhere from time to time, that’s probably because his actual girlfriend got home
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